We still went to the same high school, we were still in the same friend group, and we still went to the same Bible study, but what had changed was the tension people could feel between us. To manage this tension we decided to agree to disagree using integration with our relationship. (Adler R, Rosenfeld L, Proctor II L, pg 289) This technique worked for a while because we were able to get together and just talk about what was going on in our present life instead of talking about what had happened with our relationship passed. This strategy continued until she and her boyfriend broke up, which ultimately changed the dynamic of our entire friend group. People started taking sides and since I was good friends with her boyfriend too, I chose to cut ties with her and focus on mine and her ex boyfriend