“All human beings have three lives: public, private and secret.” This quote can have various interpretations. A main idea that Gabriel García Márquez represents in this quote is that privacy is vital to a person and gives the individual autonomy and individuality. Without privacy a person would not be able to live normally. However, privacy can and is violated in various scenarios, for example in marriage. In the story "To Room Nineteen" written by Doris Lessing and the protagonist, Susan Rawlings, privacy was violated, which led to her suicide. Before she got married, Susan had a comfortable life with a great career, however she was forced to give it all up. In his commentary “In Room Nineteen: Why Did Susan Commit Suicide? Reconsidering gender relations from Doris Lessing's novel, Wang Ningchuan and Wen Yiping write: “Marriage for Susan had become a turning point from equality to subordination. The first crime that Susan committed after marriage was the voluntary expropriation of her private property, the apartment. And then she gave up her job because she was pregnant. Both symbolized her obtuse renunciation of material or economic independence, retreating to an inferior or subordinate social position. Nominally, it is due to Susan's reconciliation with the marriage. Ontologically, reconciliation meant a surrender to one's gender identity, which was natural for a married woman not to be an individual” (67). She would stay home and take care of her children, but she wanted them to grow up so she could have some time of her own. It was said: “The twins will soon go to school and will be away from home from nine to four. These hours in Susan's eyes; would be the preparation of Susan's slow ema... middle of paper ......maintaining one's privacy, especially in an intimate relationship, such as marriage, it is vital for a person to take time and go somewhere, where they are alone for a short period of time and can have a sense of identity and autonomy. Works Cited Askham, Janet. "Identity and stability in the marital relationship". Journal of Marriage and Family 38.3 (1976): 535-47. JSTOR. Network. 7 January 2014. .Lessing, Doris. "In room nineteen." 1919. At the NI Hall. By Lessing. Np: np, nd No. page Print.Lopata, Helena Znaniecki. “Personal Identity in Marriage and Widowhood.” Sociological Quarterly 14.3 (1973): 407-18. Print.Ningchuan, Wang and Wen Yiping. "In Room Nineteen Why Did Susan Commit Suicide? Reconsidering Gender Relations from a Doris Lessing Novel." Studies in Literature and Language 4.1 (2012): 65-74. Press.