During her lifetime there were three influential events in her life. One was his mother's wedding, two was the Japanese war against China, and the third was the communist revolution. Bao Qin's mother's marriage to Doctor Xia gave rise to controversy. Doctor Xia had children and his children did not approve of Yu-Fang because she was previously a concubine. Her children felt she was not an adequate mother or wife. The children were so against the marriage that the son beat Yu-fang. The children hadn't taken the time to get to know Yu-fang and honestly didn't know if she was fit to be a wife or mother. However, they still felt that it was their right to take matters into their own hands and go so far as to hurt Yu-fang. It is difficult to understand a son who beats his future stepmother for no concrete reason. The abuse continued to increase. Bao Qin was also abused. Dr. Xia's nephews abused her, not only physically but also verbally. There was one case where the abuse was so severe that they broke her hip and left her with a limp for the rest of her life. These events were very tiring for women. Every struggle they have faced has changed and shaped them positively and positively