Continues to talk about the common “coping mechanism” used by LGBTQ members who pretend nothing is wrong because they receive minimal “support” from family. This support includes ensuring they are “not excluded from family events” and that their partner is allowed into the home. Schulman discusses his personal experiences from his teaching at the City University of New York. For example, he says his students “defend people who hurt them” and “support systems that oppress them,” which is comparable to what gays go through with their families as they wouldn't want to go against them but they get hurt in