Best-selling self-help books, such as "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" explain to their readers that there are fundamental differences between men and women, which brings about the contrast in how both sexes speak. The author, John Gray, uses the metaphor of two planets and suggests that when men and women were united on Earth, they all suffered from "selective amnesia". As a result, "both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were supposed to be different", which resulted in gender conflict arising from a misunderstanding of intentions. Other authors of popular self-help books prefer less metaphorical theories and explain gender differences in language through evolution and biological characteristics of the sexes. However, modern sociolinguistics attempts to undermine these radical claims by approaching the question analytically and drawing on evidence from the fields of anthropology, discourse analysis, dialectology, ethnography, and social psychology to investigate whether communication between women and men differ to the extent described in psychology books and what factors might contribute to the development of what are known as sexually-preferred speech patterns. From a linguistic point of view, it could be argued that the question itself imposes preconceptions on gender discourse as it assumes that speakers are divided into two groups called "women" and "men" and that, since these groups indisputably differ, the language they they use is shaped by their sexual characteristics. In exploring the question of whether women and men speak differently, it is necessary to focus on considering the notion of an andocentric approach to gender, the concept of "acquisition"... at the heart of the paper... women speak. However, while Gray says they need a translator to help them communicate, Cameron says the differences in how men and women express themselves are minor and do not affect understanding of the opposite sex. The main contrast in the approaches taken by Gray and feminists is why these discrepancies exist. According to Gray, the concept of two sexes is an independent reason for intersexual communication. On the other hand, sociolinguists have shown that the notion of “performing gender” through language is key to understanding the vast scope of sexism, stereotypes and incompetent assumptions hidden in popular self-help books, which promote gender idea that men and women come from different planets and thus create an unjust society, in which women occupy the role of the "second sex" compared to men, who are the "norm"'.